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There are a number of reasons why you may have decided to place your baby up for adoption. You may not feel physically, emotionally or financially stable enough to raise a child. Or you may have other goals in mind that you feel you need to accomplish at this time. Regardless of why you have decided to place a baby up for adoption, you have made a decision that you feel is best for both you and your child. However, regardless of your reasoning, mothers feel sadness and grief after giving their babies up. And the added shifting hormones women experience after giving birth does not help the situation. If you are preparing to give your baby up for adoption, you will want to take the time to learn how to deal with the sadness and grief you are likely to experience in the days after your child leaves you. Dealing with these feelings will help you to move on with your life in a positive manner. Here are a few different ways you can prepare yourself for and deal with the sadness you may experience after giving up a baby for adoption.
Put Together a Birth Plan
When you are preparing to give your child up for adoption, coming up with a birth plan can be hard to think about. After all, once the baby is born, you will likely be handing them over to their new mother and father shortly. However, putting together a birth plan based on what you want and feel comfortable with may actually help you with some of the grief you will experience in the days after you give them up. For example, some women want to give birth alone, or with their family. This gives them time to see their baby, hold their baby and love on the baby before they are given to their new family. Other women prefer to have the adoptive mother present for the birth, handing the baby over immediately after they are born. It is easier on them if they don't hold or bond with the baby. It is a tough decision, but carefully think about what you want to happen at the birth and how that decision may affect you in the future.
Seek Out a Support Group or Counselor
It is highly recommended that mothers who are considering adoption meet with a counselor and/or a support group. This will help the mother make a decision as to whether adoption is right for her. However, continuing to meet with this group or counselor throughout your pregnancy and after you give birth is also highly recommended. You are likely going to experience a barrage of emotions as you travel on this journey. Some days you may feel peaceful and content with your decision, other days you may feel angry or mad. And unfortunately, those who aren't in the position you are in, or ever have been, may not fully understand your emotions. Having a counselor or support group gives you a safe place to vent your feelings with one or more people who understand what you are going through. This can help you from feeling alone and give you an outlet to safely talk about your emotions.
Stay Busy After the Birth
Following the birth of the baby, you will want to take some time for yourself. Allow yourself to recover and heal, as giving birth and giving a child up for adoption can both be hard. However, while it is important to rest and heal, you want to ensure that you aren't taking it to the extreme. It is easy to slip into a dark place when you are lying in bed all day. Make sure to keep yourself reasonably busy after you give birth. Consider scheduling a lunch date with supportive friends or going to a movie by yourself. Staying busy can help keep your mind off of the adoption and help you focus on the positive aspects of your life.
Many women who have placed a baby up for adoption describe it as one of the most difficult things they have ever had to do. It can be emotionally draining and odds are, you are going to feel some grief or sadness, even if you know it was the right decision. Putting together a birth plan that helps you say good-bye to your baby, seeking out a counselor or support group and staying busy after the birth can help you to deal with some of the grief you may experience, allowing you move forward with your life. For more information on placing a baby for adoption, contact an adoption agency like A Child's Dream.Share